Ways to Celebrate or Honor Your Trauma Anniversary

The "Anniversary Effect," also known as "Anniversary Reaction," refers to a specific collection of uncomfortable emotions, thoughts, or memories that emerge on the anniversary of a traumatic occurrence. For those that have experienced a traumatic burn injury, the anniversary of the day of your burn is often referred to as your 'burniversary.'   

Anniversaries are an opportunity to consider our progress, recognize our accomplishments, and occasionally infer new conclusions about everything that has transpired since that time—a chance to include this momentous episode in our life story. Additionally, anniversaries remind us to take stock, be honest about our needs and wants and take action to meet those needs.  

Ways to Psychologically Support Yourself on Your Trauma Anniversary  

Recognize and accept the feelings that you might be experiencing. Realize that your emotions are a natural and necessary part of the healing process.  

Find positive ways to deal with the stress you're experiencing. Discuss your past experiences and feelings with someone you can put your trust in or spend time with your loved ones and friends. Some people find that engaging in pursuits that divert their attention from the traumatic memories they are struggling to cope with is a helpful coping strategy.  

Activities that encourage contemplation, such as reading, meditation, or simply walking, are also effective. Steer clear of unhealthy coping mechanisms such as getting drunk or using drugs.  

Suppose you dwell on "what if" or "if only" scenarios; remind yourself to focus on the here and now. Try to be present in the moment. Concentrate on your breath and take several deep, steady breaths. As you exhale, focus on letting the tension leave your body.  

Trauma anniversaries can reawaken feelings of helplessness and panic. Your stress levels might rise due to external stimuli such as visuals, narratives, and personal recollections. Shift your outlook by appreciating your strength in overcoming obstacles and reaching this point in your life. You have that inner strength even when it doesn't feel like it. Never stop searching for the good and the things you are grateful for.  

Ways to Honor Your Trauma Anniversary   

The goal is to find a healthy method to honor your experience. Here are a few ideas for celebrating your trauma anniversary:  

• Donate your time or money to a charitable organization, particularly one whose mission is to protect others from experiencing traumatic events or assist those who have already been through them.  

• You can have a party or plan a meal to be shared with your loved ones. You can make this a time for reflection or one filled with love and happiness.  

• Take a vacation where you can visit a significant location, such as where you identify with good times or healing.  

• Have a 'me' day where you can express your emotions through art, writing, dance, or any other activity that allows you to release your thoughts or spend the day pampering yourself at a spa.  

• You can make yourself laugh by going to a comedy show or movie or spending time with your funny friends.  

• Plant a tree that brings new life onto the earth. This can be a fitting way to remember those who may have lost their lives on a tragic day.  

• Express your gratitude to the members of the medical staff or the emergency responders by visiting them or writing an email for everything they did to ensure your comfort and well-being.  

• Do nothing. This may be a day of solitude and somberness for you. It is okay to feel all feelings while still going about your regular daily routine.  

Your Story, Your Way  

Plan out your day's traumaversary activities in advance. You might return to the hospital and express gratitude to the staff. Alternatively, you might decide to celebrate with your loved ones and friends. Be sure to speak with someone or even get professional assistance if you feel overwhelmed. Ultimately, there is only one appropriate way to celebrate your burniversary: what works for you.  

Phoenix Society for Burn Survivors is a safe place for burn survivors to express their feelings after a burn injury.  

At the Phoenix Society, our roles extend far beyond those of scholars, care specialists, and advocates. We are a global network of survivors, a family dedicated to discovering the tools and information. We support you to survive and thrive in the aftermath of traumatic experiences. We are here to listen to you whenever you feel as though you are all alone, confused, or in the dark.